Saturday, 19 May 2012

Lest you forget I'm British, let's talk about the weather

I have been so touched by your comments, and the emails and texts that I've been sent. Both from people I know but also those who I don't but who have been through similar experiences and understand what a shit place this is to be.

Although, if pushed, I will have to admit to having a favourite.

I am sorry, it wasn't yours - unless that is you happen to be an 89 year old man from the North East of Scotland who got an iPad for Christmas and is getting to grips with email. (And if you are look away now, this site is not for the likes of you.)

On Wednesday the Husband's Grandad sent us this email, the second paragraph is golden:

Hullo folks

I had your Mum up yesterday and then in the evening she phoned giving me your unfortunate news. It must be quite heartbreaking for you both but don't despair. Keep your spirits up. It will happen!!!*

No improvement in our weather yet. Still too cold with snow showers in the hills. Roll on summer.

Keep well. Cheers meantime. Granpa
 

This has now leap frogged my Dad's misguided LOL (Oh god he has something in common with David Cameron - shoot me now) as the best commiseration from a relative.

*yes, I can forgive the triple exclamation mark on this occasion.



22 comments:

  1. Oh grandpa. They do try but they just don't know what to say. But who does? It's just do flipping heartbreaking. Love to you xxx

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  2. I love everything about this message (apart from the fact it had to be sent in the first place obviously). Brilliant. Bless Granpa.

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  3. It is sweet in its own way. Regardless I hope your weather turns sunny soon -- on all fronts.

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  4. I have only just found your blog. I am sorry that I was not able to join you at a happier point but I have to say I am so glad I found you, I have been reading some back posts and you make me laugh. I do love a blog that brings a smile to my face. I am also from the UK and it is just lovely to find another blogger from these shores. I adore your 'about me' bullet point list and agree with pretty much every bullet, I too have periods not visits from creepy old ladies. I am so sorry for your recent loss. However, Grandpa is a dude and I am looking forward to joining you on your journey(more gems from him I hope). By the way, it is cold as crap here in Hereforeshire and somewhat overcast.

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  5. Very sweet - Grandpas aren't generally known for acknowledging things like this, so he must be a special guy. And I'm enjoying the mental picture of an elderly man with an iPad.

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  6. That is the sweetest note ever....and to end on a weather check is hilarious. I agree with Rebecca, I hope your weather turns sunny soon!!!

    Sending hugs!

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  7. Damn you for making me laugh. .... but then, I think you and I cope with grief with dark / obscure humour.
    LOL.
    XA

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  8. God, it's sweet. Talk about speaking in code. Reading between the lines I think he's quite moved/upset/sad about the whole thing. Which is not surprising. It reminds me of J Joyce: The snow was general all over Ireland.

    Now THERE is a heartbreaking ending.

    (But, as he rightly said; this is not your ending).

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  9. I'm just catching up with you, I'm so so sorry. I so wish there was something to say that will take it all away. I, as many others, have been in your place and I know how it feels. I so wish this didn't happen to you or any other women out there, but since it has, my little piece of advise is to let the feelings out, feel whatever you need or want to feel. Hugs.

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  10. Well, the forecast is looking up during next week, finally we will get some sun. Sweetest email ever, bless him for reaching out to you. I hate he had to do that in the first place though.

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  11. Grandparents are so good in moments like this. Just keep taking in the love from everyone in your life. The journey continues with a new story ...

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  12. The "Keep well. Cheers meantime" made me cry, I mean, I think I got something in my eye.

    What a sweetheart.

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  13. I'm so sorry about your loss, but I love that you can keep your sense of humor in a time like this. Props to Granpa for his inappropriately placed weather report, and to your dad too for the LOL. I mean, if you can't LOL, you'd cry, so.

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  14. I am sorry for your loss. I read your list of 'How to miscarry at eight weeks' and I would add, try to find something, anything that can lift your spirits every day. But I see that you are already doing that. Thinking of you. (here from LFCA).

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  15. Hi,
    I found out I've miscarried today and somehow fell across your blog tonight. God isnt having a miss so disappointing. Thanks for making me smile tonite.
    E

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  16. That is sweet in it's own way.

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  17. Thinking of you bunches. Big hugs.
    Erika

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  18. Grandparents say the most golden things... lovely that he's thinking of you and doing the email thing on an iPad at his age :) Thinking of you xoxo

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  19. Ah grandpa....he tried. I'm sure he gave you a giggle when you least expected one...and that in itself is a small gift that only grandpa can give. I am still very heartbroken for you. I had this exact experience with our first pregnancy..(on heartbeat at ultrasound after seeing one just 2 weeks prior). And then having to wait it out. I ended up getting the D&C 6 days later because I just couldn't take the waiting anymore. I hope it is all over now and you can start to heal. I'm so very sorry you had to go through this Liz...it really does suck ass! Hugs.

    Karaleen

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  20. Granpa sounds like a pretty damn good guy. Hope you're well, as well as can be.

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