On behalf of your fertile readership (I know we are in the minority!), can I request a follow up post to this with suggestions of what is the right thing to say. It can be a hard thing to get right!
As I was rubbing my hands with glee, and contemplating my response, I got a phone call from a mate.
She apologised for writing the comment, explaining that she was in a bad mood at the time.
I hadn’t even read the comment in a negative way (as trolls go my friends have a lot to learn), but it did get me thinking about how I can be misinterpreted.
So let me be clear.
Despite my acerbic rantings, I don't hate fertile folk,
I would do anything to be fertile. (Well, I don’t know about anything, but certainly IVF).
Any bitterness that you detect in my writing is jealousy. Pure and simple. But not the sort of jealousy when you don't want anyone else to have what you don't.
That, plus the fact that I’ll do anything for a laugh, even a bit of fertile-bashing.
Please, don't take me too seriously.
And as for saying the wrong thing, if anyone understands 'foot in mouth' syndrome it is me. Remember, I am the girl who asked her friend, on his way to a funeral, whether he had a dead body in his car.
So back to the original question. What should you say?
Don't give advice, don't try and say what you think the infertiles want to hear (like how you met someone who got pregnant with IVF, or didn't get pregnant with IVF but then got pregnant when she gave up, or was told she could never get pregnant but then just chilled the fuck out and bingo).
Just say that you are sorry, and of course, "You should read this blog I know, Womb For Improvement, it's awesome."
That'd be good.