Last night was the second general meeting of the Barren Cystahood. We've know each other for years, lived together at university and since then our lives have gone in very different directions, but once more they have converged through infertility.
At the first meeting last November (one lives on the continent so our catch ups aren't as regular as we would like), we were circling our own orbits of infertility: on a break after failed IVF for one, hoping for success in my IUI and the third still woefully unexplained and unmedicated.
Now all three of us are eyeballing IVF. One in a few weeks, mine in a couple of months and third, after two IVFs and a frozen embryo transfer quite literally under her belt, tries again in the summer.
I was amazed at the difference in protocols the other two are facing. (I, of course, am still in the dark as to what will be prescribed to me, as my Doctor doesn't care to share that kind of information! But I could draw on what I have read about your differing procedures.) There are different drugs, wildly variant lead-in times and contrasting advice as to how much time to take off work.
Clearly, there isn't an industry standard, IVF is not an exact science with a defined treatment plan. In the alchemy of the eggs it seems, like Colonel Saunders, each clinic has their own secret recipe; a dash of progesterone, a skin pinch of injections, a dusting of HRT and an imposition of suppositories.
Makes me wonder if the Doctors are stabbing in the dark as much as the husband when he tries to assist me conceive.
I guess in a few months we'll know what works best.
But I hope not.
I fervently hope we'll all be just as confused about what is the 'right' procedure, but too concerned with discussing morning sickness and stretch-marks to give it much thought.
Oh, and I could really do with a favour from you.
Remember a few weeks ago I wrote the semiotics of pre-pregnancy paraphernalia and promised you a follow up just on pregnancy tests?
Unfortunately I have just splashed out (not literally I'm still mid-cycle), on a bunch of the same brand of tests. So I don't have a selection to choose from.
So please dig into the back of your bathroom cabinet, ferret around your socks and knickers drawer, or crack open combination safe or wherever you stash your
I'll post the results (with of course a link back to your blog), in a week or so.
How exciting, I'm particularly looking forward to seeing tests from other countries.
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